Rod Chant Counselling

In the beginning its great. Your in the "Honeymoon" period. You're having fun, excited, intimacy is great, both dialled in to each other, having fun etc., etc.,. Here's the thing, its not 100% real. You are both in a type of "High". It's a rush. We don't have both feet on the ground. We go forward anticipating our life together and then eventually we come down off our high and hit what I call the dirty "underwear" phase. Here comes the arguments, the moods and sometimes the b

Children! Teach your parents well; Show them Playfulness, Show them Spontaneous Fun, Show them Innocence, Show them Curiosity, Show them make believe Creativity, Show them Acceptance, And don't be hard on them, They forget what its like to be a Child. And know they Love you.

When life gets complicated, and relationships feel like they’re on shaky ground, it’s easy to feel lost or overwhelmed. I’ve been there myself, wondering if things could ever get better or if the distance between two people could ever truly close. That’s why I want to talk about something close to my heart: relationship therapy. It’s a resource that’s helped so many find clarity, healing, and renewed connection. And if you’re in the Campbell River or Comox Valley area, you’re

There’s so much polarization in the World these days. “If you are not with me, then not only are you against me, but you are actually a threat to me. You are going to burn down my house!” This explains why cults, for example, shut off almost all outside contact or communication. What’s missing is open dialogue. Dialoguing is an exchange of ideas, opinions, perspectives and as such an exchange of information. Gaining information is EMPOWERING. When we obtain information we mor

Anger is a natural emotion. We all feel it from time to time. But when anger starts to control us, it can cause problems in our relationships, work, and overall well-being. That’s where anger management support comes in. I’ve seen firsthand how taking the step to undertake anger management counselling can change lives. It’s not about suppressing anger but learning to understand and express it in healthier ways. Why Anger Management Support Matters When I first considered ange

A client tells me their relationship is in a bad way. Their partner has serious addiction issues, they lie, cheat on them, are verbally and emotionally abusive. I ask "what percentage is it good?" Their response might be 30%. "Then why are you in it?" They say "because I love them...and when it's good its really good AND they promise they'll do better". The problem here is that they are in it for the high, they are hooked in and waiting for another Dopamine hit. Sound familia

Counselling options in the community In the 12 (of 30) years I've worked in Campbell River B.C. I see an approximate 30 percent increase in the number of counsellors/therapists/psychologists now open for business. Not every therapist and client are a perfect fit. Not all have the experience and specialization to address every client's needs. Not all deal with couples, are Play Therapists. My own specializations given personal experience and training is that of senior's issues

When I first thought about relationship therapy, I imagined it as a last resort, something couples turn to only when things have gone terribly wrong. But over time, I’ve come to see it differently. Relationship therapy is more like a garden - it needs regular tending, care, and sometimes a little expert help to flourish. It’s about strengthening bonds, understanding each other better, and building a foundation that can weather life’s ups and downs. Why Relationship Therapy M

Enabling behaviour is one of those tricky patterns that can sneak into our relationships without us even realizing it. It often starts with the best intentions - wanting to help, protect, or support someone we care about. But over time, it can create a cycle where the person we’re trying to help doesn’t face the natural consequences of their actions. This can keep them stuck in unhealthy habits or situations, and it can leave us feeling drained, frustrated, or even resentful.

I’ve often found myself reflecting on how anger, while a natural emotion, can sometimes feel like a wild horse that’s hard to rein in. If you’re reading this, maybe you’ve felt that too. Maybe you’re searching for ways to understand and manage your anger better. Living in or near Campbell River and the Comox Valley, you’re in luck because there are some thoughtful, effective options available. Today, I want to share what I’ve learned about anger management and how Rod Chant C

Managing both critical and chronic health issues can take considerable energy and emotional resilience. It can bring up a lot of negative self-talk. You might find yourself wondering, "What next?" or "Why me...again?" You may even think, "Why should I fight it?" Sometimes, we project how others see us, leading to thoughts like, "I don't want to be a bother," or "They shouldn't have to put up with me." The Impact of Negative Self-Talk Research shows that negative self-talk and

Intimacy in relationships is one of those things that feels both simple and complex at the same time. It’s that warm, close feeling you get when you truly connect with someone else. But what does it really mean? How do we build it, maintain it, or even recognize when it’s missing? I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this, and I want to share some insights that might help you understand intimacy better and maybe even deepen your own connections. Relationship Intimacy Expla

When we talk about relationships, whether with a partner, family member, or close friend, there’s often an unspoken dynamic that can quietly shape how we interact. One such dynamic is enabler behaviour. It’s a tricky thing to spot and even trickier to address. I’ve seen it in many forms, and I want to share some insights on handling enabler behaviour effectively. This isn’t about blame or shame. It’s about understanding, compassion, and growth. Understanding Enabler Behaviour

Anger is a powerful emotion. It can surge through us like a storm, leaving behind wreckage if we’re not careful. I’ve been there myself - feeling that heat rise, the pulse quicken, and the words ready to burst out before I even think. It’s tough to manage, but it’s not impossible. That’s why I want to talk about something that’s helped me and many others: anger control classes in Vancouver. Why Anger Counselling Makes a Difference Living with anger that feels out of control c

Relationships are beautiful, complex, and sometimes downright challenging. I’ve been there, feeling the weight of misunderstandings, the sting of unmet expectations, and the quiet distance that can grow between two people who once felt so close. But here’s the thing - challenges in relationships aren’t signs of failure. They’re opportunities. Opportunities to grow, to understand, and to deepen the connection in ways we might never have imagined. Let’s talk about how to naviga

When life feels overwhelming, confusing, or just plain tough, reaching out for help can be one of the bravest things we do. I’ve found that exploring counselling services in Campbell River and Comox Valley opens up a world of support, understanding, and healing. Whether you’re navigating personal struggles, relationship challenges, or family dynamics, therapy can be a gentle guide through the storm. Let me share what I’ve learned about the therapy options in Campbell River an

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Any Anger Management program will explain that anger itself is normal. What anger (and any emotion) is, is information. Anger itself is telling us that we don't like what we're experiencing and we might have to do something about it.

When we hear the word Intimacy we more often than not think of physical and sexual intimacy. If we think in terms of true "heart felt " connection it can mean so much more.