Narcissism! Narcissism! Narcissism!

He's a Narcissist, she's a Narcissist, my Father is a Narcissist, my Mother-in-law is a Narcissist, and so on. The word is the new "IT" label. It makes it so easy to throw the word around. It makes it easy to dismiss a bad relationship experience. In the past, Ex's used to be deemed selfish, or self centered, or cold hearted, and mean spirited. Here's the thing, if we easily dismiss a person, an experience, or bad relationship, we potentially miss an opportunity to grow. What may be missing is the opportunity to self reflect. In terms of intimate relationships there are questions to be asked. Why was I drawn to this person? What "red flags" that others warned me about, did I miss or choose to overlook? What are my personal rights and boundaries that got trampled on? Maybe/probably it happened subtly at first but with time I gave away more and more of myself to placate them, and accept their very self focused expectations. "If you really love me, you'll give up your friends for me (because they see me for who I am)", you'll give up your outside activities and hobbies ("how selfish of you"). Eventually you LOSE YOUR SENSE OF SELF. You become an emotional hostage to this person. Individual counselling gives you the opportunity to find yourself again. The right questions are asked to lead you to the right answers for you. The term "walking on eggshells" come to mind. Pay attention! Are you "walking on eggshells"? Rod Chant has 25 years experience in the field of relationship counselling. Don't lose yourself in an unhealthy relationship, and don't miss an opportunity to gain a learning experience. Call Rod Chant Counselling at 250-202-0891.